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Table of Contents
ONE: On a Personal Note
Hard Stuff: My Generation is Dying
This month we lost Dolly Parton and Gloria Steinem. Dolly was just a few months older than me. For a girl born just twelve years after Steinem, she showed me what was possible for a “mere female.”
Growing up, my father often shouted at me and Mom, “Shut up, you stupid females.” Those words silenced my voice and damaged my sense of worth. Steinem helped rouse my awareness of self-value. I heard her speak in Calgary and Las Vegas, read her books, subscribed to Ms. Magazine, and proudly served for more than 15 years on the steering committee of Women in Psychology, a feminist grassroots group.
One of the hard things about getting older is watching our peers and the people who inspired us disappear one by one. We lose not only friends and colleagues, but the connections to the people and movements that helped influence our values.
I will do what I can to pass on the lessons of Steinem’s legacy. What about you? ❤️🐞
Uplifting Stuff: Long-time Friends
My women friends provide me with moments of encouragement, laughter, wisdom, and belonging, even more so as I grow older. True friends remember who we are, celebrate who we are, and have often ‘been there’ in the best and worst moments. Long-time friendships can give us a sense of steadiness in an ever changing, often chaotic world. But they need attention. Here are three ways to nourish relationships:
Make the effort. Don’t wait for the right time. Send a text, make the call, plan a lunch. In this group we each contribute to our luncheon.
Stay curious. Even after decades, keep discovering who your friends are becoming. We share good-news and hard experiences since we last met.
Make room for imperfection. Friendships survive busy lives, changes, and misunderstandings, when we use grace, ease, and flexibility in how we connect.
How do you nourish your long-time friendships?
In the meantime, I wish you continued resilience,
Patricia ❤️🐞
TWO: Resiliency Research
Relationships Help our Mental and Physical Health Holt-Lunstad et al. (2010) — Social Relationships and Mortality Risk
This major meta-analysis examined 148 studies involving 308,849 people and found that people with stronger social relationships had a substantially greater likelihood of survival. The authors note that social relationships are associated not only with mortality, but also with mental health and morbidity.
Source: National Library of Medicine
THREE: A Mental Health Poster (a different relationship)
FOUR: Patricia’s Blog/Articles
Have you always been the responsible one? Were you the child everyone relied on? Did you grow up feeling responsible for your parents’ emotions, finances, conflicts, or wellbeing?
Perhaps you were praised for being “so mature,” “so helpful,” or “the easy child.” While these compliments may have felt validating at the time, they may have hidden a process called parentification. This process can lead to adult challenges.
Many adults don't realize that their stress, guilt, anxiety, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries may be rooted in their childhood. These patterns were established in the making of a parentified child. However, the good news is . . . CLICK HERE.
The sub-title of this blog/article is deliberately, “A New Way to Thrive as You GROW Older”. Getting older is inevitable. Growing older while learning, socially engaging and staying act are important options to choose.
While we can’t stop the passage of time, we can choose how we respond to it. The difference between merely surviving and thriving often comes down to one thing: resilience.
What Is Resilient Aging?
Resilient aging is the ability to . . . CLICK HERE.
FIVE: Resiliency Video Picks
Embodied Self-Compassion | Dr. Arielle Schwartz (10.59min)
How Many Times have you Started Over? with Kimberly Lyall (2.37min)
Return on Goodwill CP24 News Interview with Sam Demma (5.48min)
Patricia’s Videos
Why Inner Child Work Feels Scary | Dear Little Me Series (2.58min)
You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Be Loved | Dear Little Me Series (3.44min)
Distress Time: When Stress Becomes Harmful | Hans Selye Explained
SIX: Opportunities with Patricia
Darn! No presentations booked for this coming month. If you know of a group that would benefit from one of my sessions to lighten your load and brighten your outlook, let me know at [email protected] Okay? ❤️🐞
SEVEN: More Opportunities for Resilience
Presentations — In-Person or Online
Keynotes/Workshops: CLICK HERE.
Presentation Skills: For those who want guidance to develop a speaking business or simply craft and deliver an engaging message CLICK HERE.
Counselling Therapy: Can be delivered online or in-person. CLICK HERE.
Publications: To view resiliency books and ebooks CLICK HERE.
Please let me know how I might be of service at [email protected]
Your Spunky Patricia ❤️🐞
